They say, the older you get, the less you care about what others think about you. I know this has been very true for me. As I grow older, I am finding that I am worthy beyond what my mind was once capable to imagining. Worthy of being consistently happy, of having healthy relationships, and of showing up as my authentic self daily and being appreciated for it. Regardless of what the world throws at me, my worthiness comes from who God says that I am.
The feeling of worthiness can come and go in waves. In the past, I would grab hold of it and then life would snatch it right back. Leaving me on a seesaw of deserving and deficient.
Because we live most of life in our own head, we are susceptible to getting stuck at particular junctions in our personal journeys, with negative thoughts driving the bus. Our trauma area is where we are most likely to get stuck. We then become desperate to navigate our way out. I remember our marriage counselor saying “you have to say 5 positive comments to make up for the one negative comment.” So basically watch your words. Also, watch the words you accept as truth that is said to you. Negativity seems to stick around longer than the positive . It’s all a mind game of emotions. Our negative thoughts, emotions and experiences challenge our self-worth and can make us feel as if we are not worthy of better. I can tell you without a doubt that you are deserving of all the good that this world has to offer. The world does not get to decide if you are deserving.
When we sit still, and realize that we are here but for a short time, we desire to move closer to showing up as our best selves. We fight like hell to release the negative things and let them drown. We then throw a life jacket to the positive things we want to save.
So, how do we move from feelings of unworthiness to valuable ?
The Game Plan
First things first. We get out of our feelings. We settle it in our minds and in our hearts that God created us in His image. We then choose to see all of the good in ourselves, because it is there. We just have to acknowledge it and welcome it. We sense a worthiness, simply because we belong to the Almighty God. The Creator of all things. We then become desperate to protect every good thing that God has placed in us. Stuff worth saving. We then fill up with all the positivity that our hearts and minds can gather. We do this by reading what God says about us, not the world.
Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.”
If we believe God’s word to be true, then we must approach life as if we are here on purpose. As if we have important stuff to do. God needs us healed, confident and prepared. In order for us to do this, we have to see ourselves as His workmanship. A vessel that He thoughtfully crafted out. As a place where His spirit dwells.
Sometimes, it takes God having to break us, in order to mold us into better–whole –versions of our old selves.
When we become completely consumed with seeing ourselves through the eyes of God, our worthiness becomes evident in every room we walk into. It is noticeable in everything that our hands touch.
So it’s settled! I am worthy. You are worthy. We are worthy.
Let’s start showing up everyday believing that it is so.
“For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Psalm 139:13-14
Jessica A. Brown